Nowadays, most of us value our friends more than we value our own families. We even spend more time with them than we stay at home. Truth be told, we usually choose to hang out with them than to enjoy quality time with family. But the sad truth remains untold – our friends today might be strangers for us tomorrow.
You may be wondering why I mentioned this. The answer is very simple – day in and day out we meet and make new friends. However, not all of them remain in our lives forever. Some might go ahead of us in our journeys, others may just be stumbling blocks along the road, while most of them just disappear for no apparent reason.
Sad, isn’t it? This may be true but how should we take this matter? Should we sulk in agony? Suffer from depression? Cry in despair? Or maybe there are things we can consider when our friends seem to have become our enemies.
BEST THINGS TO DO WHEN FRIENDS HURT OR LEAVE US:
It won’t be that easy, but we can still try to work things out by doing these:
1. LET’S STOP MAKING OUR LIVES REVOLVE AROUND OUR FRIENDS ALONE.
We take things to heart but sometimes we forget ourselves in the process. We devote much of our individuality tying knots to our friends and may still end up clueless the moment they leave us.
Sounds devastating right? But that should not be the matter.
It is good to make friends – especially the good ones but as we give too much attention to them, we might also give them our world unknowingly. That moment there can either make or break us when the unwanted time comes and we must be ready to face it no matter what the circumstances are.
2. ACCEPT THAT ALL OF US HAVE FLAWS.
Not that making friends should meet a perfect criterion nor a flawless standard. Rather it is a reminder that as imperfect human beings, we too commit mistakes.
Ever wonder why the Japanese used the image of a broken vase smelt with gold to fix it? Well, they say that it is to remind people that no matter how perfect it may seem, the mere fact that the gold lines remain is a proof that it was once broken.
There is beauty in every flaw. That beauty remains intact for as long as it keeps the broken pieces together. In human culture, that is what we call as second chances.
3. TEACH OURSELVES TO FORGIVE.
No one is holier than Thou. we cannot simply say we won’t forgive and just leave those friends hanging out there just because they have done something wrong.
This is where the tricky part comes in – we find it hard to forgive people. I know that this matter varies from person to person. Others find it easy in their hearts to forgive while others bury it deep under. To help us answer this puzzle, let’s ask ourselves this question – Which is more valuable, our friends whom we’ve shared memories with or the mistakes that those people made?
So next time we think about breaking up with friends, let’s contemplate on these three things first. We’ll feel much better if we take them to heart.
And there we’ll find the peace that is within.
